Love & Relationships: Does Online Dating Really Work? A New Book Says, Maybe

WE HAVE NOW REACHED the tipping point in how relationships happen — more couples meet online than in real life. Whether we like it or not, Internet dating is the new normal, and statistically speaking, traditional romance is dead.

Following the break-up of my six-year relationship, I embarked upon an eventful journey through the precarious world of online dating apps. During this time I was shocked by the behaviour of the older, divorced singles of my generation. I was stood up, ghosted, verbally abused, propositioned for sex and asked to be a surrogate father to an unborn child, amongst other things. 

BLACK PEOPLE & INTERNET DATING

As a black man, I also found myself approached online by middle-aged white women in search of “something different”. Ethnic minorities generally fare worse within online dating than whites. Black women statistically rank as the least attractive amongst men, receiving fewer matches and responses, and are subject to the highest levels of online abuse.

ONLINE DATE SELF-HELP GUIDE

Within the dating apps, identifying suitable matches was very difficult. The turning point for me came when I learned to be an emotional detective. By interpreting the clues and hidden messages within the words and images online daters posted in their profiles I was able to pinpoint those who were emotionally unavailable or otherwise unsuitable. My book offers a step-by-step guide that teaches Internet daters exactly how to do this, and thereby identify better matches.

ONLINE DATING BOOK REVEALS

But despite online dating’s popularity there are major issues the book highlights, including;

• Why you have a less than 20 per cent chance of finding love online.

• Why black women who seek love should never use ‘Tinder’.

• Why dating apps should carry a government health warning.

• Why dating apps would prefer that you don’t find love.

• Why 90 per cent of online daters may not actually want a relationship.

To find out more about these issues, and to learn how to use Internet dating apps better, get the book at Amazon.